Monday, April 13, 2009

Dating in the Fallen World Part III; Nobody's Perfect

So here I am again, column is due and I have yet to begin. "Nobody's perfect." I think. Yeah, I am not perfect. You are not perfect. And neither is any guy here on earth. Even Jesus said he was not perfect. And He said unto them, "Why callest thou me good? There is none good but One, that is God" (Matthew 19:17 NKJV). Even though I think He was perfect I am not going to argue with Him! There is no human on this earth who can be everything I want them to be. There is no man who will complete me. Sorry Jerry McGuire not even you! There is no man who can even come close to making me feel as loved, or for that matter who can love me as much as God does. Once I find a man who knows this like I do, I think I'll be okay.

Sure I'm looking for someone who has some worldly perks like a full time job. Let's face it we need money down here. And you guessed it, a full time job is on the requirement list! However, a guy looking to buy my love need not apply. I want, no, I need a man who knows where my treasure is. I want him to know that even though I will LOVE that HUGE diamond he puts on my finger to show the world he loves me, it will be left behind along with the rest of my earthly possessions.

I want a Boaz in my life. He sacrificed his own interests and earthly good to provide for Ruth. His love for Ruth was not just an overwhelming adoration, it was a decision. A choice of selfless devotion. As parents we know what this is all about. Sometimes, being a parent can feel like one sacrifice after another. We sacrifice our time, our energy, and our money. We choose to do this. These are sacrifices of love. We choose to love our children when they are acting unlovable. Our children test the limits of our love on a frequent basis. When my children got that assignment they thought it said daily not frequently. When our ability to love our kids is stretched to the limits we have to remember the sacrifice of love that was made for us.

Where did that random tangent come from? I was talking about dating wasn't I? I believe love is a choice. Yes it may start with a feeling, or the twinkle of an eye. But when that feeling wears off, we need to choose to continue to love. Love may even start with a need. We may have a void in our lives we need to fill that brings us to Jesus. Then we must choose to love and follow him. He gave us free will. He doesn't make us love him.

I want a husband that chooses to love me everyday. Even on the days when I act less than lovable. I want a husband who chooses to tell me I am beautiful after I have taken my makeup off. I believe the man God has planned for me will choose to love my children as his own even though they are not, just as I will choose to love his. Love is a choice because nobody's perfect. No matter how wonderful a guy seems, or how perfect he looks, I bet he still leaves dirty clothes on the floor!

In the dating world, I find that practicing what you preach when you are in love is also a choice. Many Christan parents tell their children to wait until they are married to have sex but yet have a problem following their own advice. They give many different excuses for this but they are still exactly that, excuses. If you think you are in love, yet the guy wants you to compromise your values, run! Chances are that man was not sent to you from God. "For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye abstain from fornication; that each of you know how to possess himself of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who know not God" (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 ASV).

I am not sure why I included this. It is a word for someone out there. Do not risk your eternity for fear of losing someone here on earth. Nobody is perfect and we all have fears. Some of us fear abandonment, fear being lonely, or rejection. Please know God will never abandon you, leave you lonely, or reject you. Even when you can not feel or hear him, He is with you. While falling in love is a wonderful feeling, I am sure being in heaven for all eternity with our Lord and Savior has got to be so much better! Even if it seems like it is taking so long to find that diamond in the rough, don't settle. Choose God over prince charming every time. Choose to love yourself. You will always come out ahead!

1 comment:

The Wethington's said...

So how was the big birthday weekend? Did Sierra like her present? The t-shirt is a 14-16 because when I buy those shirts they always shrink like crazy so I figured it would fit her soon. And then I figured she might like to use the big bag for sleep over packing and the jewelry making thing was Garrett's idea because they always make a craft when they are together ;)